Sunday, December 11, 2011

I Hate Myself


I Hate Myself
12/11/11

                I hate myself.
                This is not a new thing for me, by any stretch of the imagination. In fact, this seems to be somewhat of a recurring theme in my life; which is yet another thing I am unhappy with myself about.
                This constant cycle of self-hatred is something that has defined my life for many years; since I was in elementary school at least. While most kids were learning how to socialize with one another, I learned how to loathe myself and hate other people. This bitterness that I have been fighting against was born during that time in my life. Its roots are deep and every time I think I have uprooted it, it comes back, fully flowered and as strong and vibrant as it ever were.
                All of my self-destructive tendencies are coming up to the surface. I manage not to give into most of them, such as picking up a pack of smokes or cutting on myself. Both of those actions would be addressing the same hatred and urge to destroy that which I loathe, albeit slowly. Drinking is out, dive to various medications, and I have written about how that very has been riding me as well.
                And why don’t I give into the old habits? Why don’t I gave into the incessant urging of the monkeys riding my back? It would be easier for everyone around me if I just quit fights against the old demons, right? Wouldn’t I be easier to live with?
                No.
                Those habits of self-destruction ruled me when I imbibed in them on a regular basis. Besides, since kicking them, why would I want to go back? There are so many more options when it comes to self-destruction. Why repeat myself? That would be boring.
                Seriously, though, what I really want is to not hate myself. It almost seems like too much to ask of my own psyche, considering what’s going on, but that’s my goal. I thought I had actually reached it for a while there, but this illness has taught me differently. This illness is teaching me quite a bit about me; a lot of which I can’t say that I like all that much.
                I suppose I could end it, but that seems too damned fifteen year old girl for me anymore In reality, things aren't that bad yet. I have an excellent support structure, and I currently have health insurance. It’s damnably hard to look at the bright side of things, though, when the pain is constant and you cannot even plan for the next day. I have to re-learn what my limitations are. Just knowing that there are very real limitations on what I am capable of doing at any given point in time is bloody fucking depressing.
                I know that I need to cut myself some slack and allow myself time to heal. After all, I just had an exacerbation a couple of weeks ago and I just finished off the oral step down steroid regimen. I acknowledge the full possibility that this canker-blossom of self-hate might very well be fueled by the steroids, but it still stems from my own inborn self-loathing.
                Writing this out is helping a little bit. At least, it is making me feel like I am actually doing something, besides laying around like a lump.
                Mommy-Ne and Bryan Paul were going to come over and help me clean today. I cancelled due to the headache I have been down wise most of this weekend. The headache is probably due to Cookies. Cookies one evil. Cookies are just the latest way to kill myself, I think. It wouldn’t surprise me if the steroids plus cookies have thrown me into diabetes. That fact does nothing to make me care for myself any more than I already d. Part of me just looks at this as another betrayal.
                Yes. Another way I betrayed myself.
                Selfish. Stupid. Short-sighted.
                Well, I know what needs to be done, at least partly. Carbohydrates are over-rated anyway… right?

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